As the father of four athletes, two of whom play Division 1 college football, the tragic suicidal story of Kyren Lacy, a former LSU receiver, resonates deeply with me. It served as a wake-up call, prompting me to reach out to my sons to ensure they’re mentally okay.
Kyren’s story highlights a troubling reality for many American athletes: the feeling of hopelessness that can exist beyond their talent. This phenomenon often stems from fathers who focus solely on their sons’ athletic abilities without providing a broader context for their lives. In many neighborhoods, black athletes are groomed through competition — who is the fastest, strongest, or most skilled. Yet how often do we check in on their emotional and spiritual well-being? This neglect can leave our young men vulnerable to destructive vices and cycles that threaten their futures.
As fathers, our primary responsibility is to protect and nurture our children. This means safeguarding them from habits and systems that could derail their lives. Serving our sons extends beyond simply finding them the best athletic trainers; it involves being genuinely concerned about their mental and spiritual health. Unfortunately, this conversation is rarely emphasized in the world of sports and entertainment.
I’ve made it a point to educate my sons about the statistical realities of becoming professional athletes. By providing them with data-driven insights, I help them understand the importance of having aspirations beyond sports — like becoming a husband and father. This broader perspective offers hope that transcends their athletic talent.
Kyren’s tragic decision stemmed from an inability to envision a life beyond the NFL and a future beyond his mistakes. We cannot let this become the norm in our communities. Our boys are meant for more than just playing on a team or chasing a ball. We must help them realize they can own teams, create opportunities, and make a significant impact in the world.
Fathers should teach their sons that their athletic gifts are not merely the result of genetics but are intentionally designed by God for a greater purpose. These abilities are not just for personal fame but for a higher calling that can manifest glory in the world. This understanding instills hope that goes far beyond talent.
Let us challenge ourselves to be present in our sons’ lives, nurturing not just their athletic pursuits but their entire beings. Together, we can cultivate a generation of young men who are not only skilled athletes but also compassionate leaders and resilient individuals. In doing so, we’ll create a legacy of hope, strength, and purpose that will resonate for generations to come.
